And what do they feel about your decision now?
They’re used to it. I’m at a little over two years here so I think that they’re a little just… interested maybe? Intrigued about why I keep coming back. They all think that I’m fluent, they all think that I’m the China expert; anything even slightly having to do with China they’re like, “oh, Roni!” But I like to tell them that I’m nowhere near fluent in Chinese, I am nowhere near an expert of China in any way and even if I were to live here for the rest of my life I don’t think I would be, but I have gained more of an understanding than they have…. (laughs)
You mentioned you’ve been here for two years, so what are your favorite aspects of China, Chinese culture, Chinese people?
It’s really cool how long the history is, I mean being from a baby country, like I mean a newborn, fetus country compared to China it’s pretty cool that this land, at least, has such a long history. The religious background that exists in China is really different from what I grew up in which is cool. Chinese babies are super cute. I don’t really like children but if I had to be around children I would choose Chinese children. The food is way better and tastier, I didn’t know what real food tasted like, basically, until I got to China. It’s opened my eyes to the world of spice, I didn’t know that so many different types of spice existed and that it could actually be tolerable sometimes if it’s mild… I like… this might sound kind of weird, but I like there’s not such a defined necessity for personal space here. Like, everyone’s kind of in your business and it makes it feel, I don’t know, It kind of makes everyone feel closer, it’s not as lonely, I think. I like that people just ask me questions, and they’re not reserved like they are in The United States… everyone’s so reserved. It’s not like that here, people will just ask you whatever. Even in like, public bathrooms and stuff.
Did they ever come off as judgmental?
In the over two years that I’ve been here there’s been one time that it felt judgmental. But other than that, no. Just pure inquiring.
Can you share a moment that you were completely stunned or shocked by the different things that you weren’t used to in your home country?
Well, the one thing that comes to mind which doesn’t really have to do with the culture but more the language; I remember the first time; I was like a month and a half into my first semester in Shanghai and I was going to a park I went to like three times, four times a week, and there was this woman with this cute dog, and I was petting the dog and she asked me in Chinese if I went to the University nearby, and I said yes, and then I like stopped for a second and looked at her, and realized that that I had just understood what she said in Chinese and then I responded and I had a very big WHHAAAAT! moment because up until that point I had kind of given up on the idea that I would ever be able to do anything with Chinese because it was so hard in the beginning. So that was pretty shocking – it was my first real interaction with someone who didn’t speak English, so it was super exciting to me to see that it was actually physically possible to learn Chinese. Because it is, um, harder than people say it is. It’s harder.
Have you travelled around China and other parts of Asia?
Yeah, yes I have. I actually did this WeChat program where you could select every city that you’ve been to in every province in China and I got, I think it was 64%. But then again, it highlights the entire province if you’ve been to one city in the province so it’s of course not accurate but I have been to like at least one city in 64% of China’s provinces which is pretty unbelievable I feel really lucky to have been able to do that. I’ve been able to see a couple in the South, a couple in the North, in the West too but mostly on the East Coast. Outside of China I have been to Japan, Cambodia, Laos, Thailand…
Would you say it’s relatively easy to travel around Asia??
Uh… It’s cheaper than going to Europe! I’ve only been to Paris so it’s not like I would know but from what I’ve heard there’s a lot of English going on there but here I don’t think it’s as much. But you kind of find common languages with the people around. Like, I stayed in a hostel in Laos where the lady at the front desk didn’t speak English, but she had learned Japanese in high school, and there was a Japanese tourist that was staying at that hostel who also didn’t speak any English but spoke Chinese! So I was able to speak to the Japanese tourist in Chinese, who then translated in Japanese to the lady at the front desk in this obscure city in Laos. So, I think you can figure it out.